Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor
Romans 12:10
Today's Dare
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."
This chapter talks about that love is the opposite of selfishness. This is something I have accused Pat of many times. I have never really thought of myself as selfish. But wait, here is a sentence from the book..."When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that's a sign of selfishness?" Guilty!! I think I've even posted on the blog about this very topic and felt justified in doing so. I may have to rethink this. Day 3 has definitely given me something to think about.
Today's Dare is easy for me. I have a couple of ideas of things I would like to buy for him that don't cost much and he would be surprised at the gesture. This will be a fun one today.
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Friday, June 19, 2009
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Day 2 - Love is Kind
Be Kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:32
Today's Dare:
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Right away this one is slightly difficult for me. I feel like I'm the one doing all the giving in our household. I take on most of the responsibility for the house and the kids as well as work full time. I kind of feel like he needs to just take care of himself because I can't give much more. Because of this I think he feels like I don't have enough time for him. I will have to think about this throughout the day today to decide what unexpected kindness I can show Pat that will be something out of the ordinary.
How it turned out:
As usual, we didn't get a chance to see each other much today...literally about 30 minutes. You see, I work all day and he works in the evening. I did talk to him a few times on the phone and I was mindful about what I said to him. I think I did say something at the end of the day that he took the wrong way and I was tired and I didn't correct it. So, I may have failed this dare. I still have 38 more days though...
Ephesians 4:32
Today's Dare:
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Right away this one is slightly difficult for me. I feel like I'm the one doing all the giving in our household. I take on most of the responsibility for the house and the kids as well as work full time. I kind of feel like he needs to just take care of himself because I can't give much more. Because of this I think he feels like I don't have enough time for him. I will have to think about this throughout the day today to decide what unexpected kindness I can show Pat that will be something out of the ordinary.
How it turned out:
As usual, we didn't get a chance to see each other much today...literally about 30 minutes. You see, I work all day and he works in the evening. I did talk to him a few times on the phone and I was mindful about what I said to him. I think I did say something at the end of the day that he took the wrong way and I was tired and I didn't correct it. So, I may have failed this dare. I still have 38 more days though...
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
The Love Dare...
I have started reading The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick. Pat and I have been together for more than 20 years now. With the stresses of raising two boys, working full-time and maintaining a house and garden sometimes our marriage is put on the back-burner. That needs to change and I'm taking the first step. I bought the book a few weeks ago and it has sat on the shelf until today. I wasn't sure if I wanted to publicize my challenge on my blog but I decided that it might make me more accountable and that I would probably stick it out for the whole 40 days if I did. Pat doesn't know I'm doing this 40-day challenge but he will be the one to reap the benefits of my little adventure. It will be good for me too.
The beginning of the books says this:
Receive this as a warning. This forty day journey cannot be taken lightly.
It is a challenging and often difficult process, but an incredibly fulfilling one. To take this dare requires a resolute mind and a steadfast determination.
It is not meant to be sampled or briefly tested, and those who quit early will forfeit the greatest benefits. If you will commit to a day at a time for forty days, the results could change your life and your marriage.
Consider it a dare, from others who have done it before you.
So, here we go....
Day 1
Love is Patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love
Ephesians 4:2
Today's Dare
Resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
Today's Outcome
I really thought about what I said to Pat all day before I would say it. There weren't any occasions where we had a disagreement but I still tried to be positive in everything I said to him.
The beginning of the books says this:
Receive this as a warning. This forty day journey cannot be taken lightly.
It is a challenging and often difficult process, but an incredibly fulfilling one. To take this dare requires a resolute mind and a steadfast determination.
It is not meant to be sampled or briefly tested, and those who quit early will forfeit the greatest benefits. If you will commit to a day at a time for forty days, the results could change your life and your marriage.
Consider it a dare, from others who have done it before you.
So, here we go....
Day 1
Love is Patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love
Ephesians 4:2
Today's Dare
Resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
Today's Outcome
I really thought about what I said to Pat all day before I would say it. There weren't any occasions where we had a disagreement but I still tried to be positive in everything I said to him.
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